Hugh Hefner’s Widow Crystal Harris Asks Jessica Biel to Back Out of PlayboyMovie Role
Though portrayed as a spot to indulge your wildest fantasies, life in the famed Playboy Mansion was quite restrictive for Crystal Hefner(née Harris), who was just 21 when she met and subsequently moved in with magnate Hugh Hefner in 2008.
Her curfew, for instance, was 6 p.m. on the dot. “The pantry staff would start frantically calling my phone at exactly 6:01 p.m.,” she writes in Only Say Good Things: Surviving Playboy and Finding Myself. “And then I would run in, pushing through the heavy wooden door, and go find Hef, so I could kiss him on the cheek and show him: Here I am, I’m home, I’ve followed the rules.”
There was also little opportunity for privacy. “Hef, of course, held the master key that ensured no one could ever lock him out.”
But the toughest bit for the psychology major who shared Hef with twins Karissa and Kristina Shannon, among other girlfriends, was the feeling she was constantly being compared to a parade of other women. “Playing the role of someone else’s image of you every day and night is exhausting—physically, mentally, and in a way that feels like your soul is actually tired,” she writes, “like some kind of life energy battery is running low.”
David Livingston/Getty ImagesCrystal Received an Allowance From Hef
To afford essentials like gas, clothes and the beauty items required to maintain her flawless appearance, she relied on her weekly $1,000 allowance they received every Friday morning.
“It was demoralizing on purpose,” she opines. “It was infantile. But since we couldn’t work outside the house, it was our only source of income.”
Hef Maintained a Little Black Book
The Playboy publisher “could be charming, and he could be cruel,” Crystal writes of his “mercurial” mood swings. “He could make you feel like you were the most important person in the entire world one minute, and like you were less important to him than the rugs that he walked across.”
And he was fastidious when it came to taking notes. Along with photos he collected of his various girlfriends flashing the camera—”Rolls and rolls of potential blackmail, if he ever wanted to use it that way”—Hef kept a little black book “where he wrote down the names of every single women who went up to the bedroom,” reveals Crystal.
His conquests included celebrities, politicians and business leaders, she alleges: “He only told me one specific name, a famous television host still on the air, a sweetheart in America but a victim in the mansion.”
Hef Developed an Addiction to Opiates
Originally starting as a way to treat his back pain, “Hef’s addiction to pills was a well-known secret in the house,” claims Crystal, “and one nobody every talked about.”
In addition to the Quaaludes he reportedly offered to his women, “doctors had no problem prescribing him opiates,” Crystal writes of Hef. “His doctor had given him an ‘earthquake supply’ of Percocet. We didn’t know until much later just how much he had tapped into that earthquake supply in addition to his regular monthly refills.”
Realizing she “had to make a plan,” Crystal began squirreling away her allowance money and doing paid promotions on social media. Making an appearance as a Playmate at a Lil Jonperformance, she decided she would learn how to DJ “so that I was more than just an accessory.”
A producer pal connected her with Jordan McGraw and while mansion staffers began planning her wedding to Hef, Crystal found herself forming a connection with the musician. “He made me feel special, just for being me,” she explains, “and the contrast between that and who I was in the mansion made me giddy.”
Buoyed by support from Jordan and his dad Dr. Phil McGraw, Crystal slowly began moving her stuff out of the mansion and into the closet Jordan had cleared out for her.
And in June 2010—just days before the planned nuptials—she left in the middle of movie night, she left, telling security guards she was just running out to get tampons. “I didn’t feel guilty for sneaking away,” she admits. “I didn’t feel guilty about the wedding. Hef had never asked me to marry him. Going along because there’s no choice and saying ‘yes’ are two very different things.”
Photo by Vivien Killilea/Getty Images for Smile TrainCrystal Had Several Conditions for Returning to Hef
Painted a runaway bride in the media, “I ran straight to Jordan and hid from it all,” she writes. “When Jordan kissed me for the first time, I felt butterflies.”
But the giddiness proved to be temporary. While she writes “I wanted so badly for it to work out,” she realized she was making the same mistakes: “I ran from one man to another, hoping it would fix all my problems.”
Devastated by her split from Jordan and with no job and a dwindling bank account, “I felt unprotected and vulnerable, so in my head I began to rewrite history,” Crystal shares. “Life at the mansion hadn’t been so bad. They had never really aggressively prevented me from leaving. I had it pretty good there.”
So when Hef’s longtime secretary Mary O’Connorcalled explaining how much he missed Crystal, “I felt myself softening more quickly than I would have liked.”
Though she agreed to return, she had some demands: While sex could remain a group activity, she “cleaned out the other girlfriends.” As she puts it, “The mansion was still a twisted underworld. But at least now, I felt a little bit in control.”
Dan Tuffs/Getty ImagesCrystal Wasn’t By Hef’s Side When He Died
When she and Hef finally did marry on New Year’s Eve 2012, Crystal wore pink, writing, “I told myself that when I got married for real someday, I would wear a white dress.”
Playing Hef’s wife was still a job, she confesses, “but it felt like a promotion.” Still, it was work. In addition to kicking off a DJ and real estate career, growing her social media platform and studying crypto currency, Crystal found herself adopting the role of caretaker.
“I was there at his elbow holding his arm to support him so when we were out in public, nobody would know he was starting to get frail or confused,” she writes. “I wasn’t going to let him down.”
Though she faced her own health battles—Lyme disease, breast implant illness and toxic mold exposure—she became “hyper-vigilant about protecting his image.”
When she returned from a week away in late 2017, Crystal learned that Hef had developed a UTI with “a strain of E. coli that was considered a ‘super bug.'” Though they turned his bedroom into a makeshift hospital room complete with the necessary antibiotics, he began to slip in and out of consciousness.
While out in the hallway debating the next steps, recalls Crystal, “one of the nurses came out of the bedroom and said simply, quietly, ‘He’s gone.'”
Instagram / Crystal HefnerCrystal Never Really Loved Hugh
Reflecting on how Hef made an effort to see she would be taken care of—setting aside his Playboy retirement fund and buying a house for her as the mansion itself had already been sold—Crystal speculates, “maybe he really loved me in some small way.”
As for her feelings toward the nonagenerian, “Yes, I loved him, but I loved him the way someone might love their kidnapper after 10 years of being with them every day,” she writes. “I feel sorry for him, that he didn’t know how to love, how to actually see another person, or how to really connect in a meaningful way. The man thought to be the greatest lover in the world never knew how to love at all.”